You deserve support, even if your brain is telling you that you are a burden. You are not a burden, and a real person can sit with you through this moment. 💛

Start with the place that fits

If you are in immediate danger, move toward a safer place if you can. That might be a room with other people, a trusted neighbor, or any public place where you feel less alone. Then consider calling a crisis line. You do not need perfect words. You can say, “I am not doing okay,” and let the person on the line help from there.

These services can listen, help you make a small plan for the next hour, and point you toward more support. They may ask where you are and what is happening. Share only what you feel able to share. Your job is not to perform sadness correctly. Your job is to get through the next moment.

United States and Canada

• The Trevor Project: US LGBTQ youth can call 1 866 488 7386 or text START to 678 678.
• Trans Lifeline: People in the US and Canada can call 1 877 565 8860.
• LGBT National Hotline: Call 1 888 843 4564.

These numbers are here for LGBTQ+ people who need connection. If calling feels huge, try reading your first sentence from a note. “I need someone to stay with me while I calm down” is more than enough. A shaky voice still counts as a voice.

United Kingdom and Australia

• LGBT Foundation Helpline: In the UK, call 0345 3 30 30 30.
• MindLine Trans+: In the UK, call 0300 330 5468.
• Switchboard LGBT+: In the UK, call 0800 0119 100.
• QLife: In Australia, call 1800 184 527.

Hours and services can change, so it is okay to check the organization directly before you call. If one line is busy, please try another option from this list. A busy line does not mean your need is too small. It means other people need care too, and you deserve a place in that care.

Make the next ten minutes softer

While you decide what to do, keep your world small. Put both feet on the floor. Take a sip of water. Hold something cold or soft. Send one simple message to someone safe: “Can you stay with me by text?” You do not have to explain your whole life story before asking for company. 🫶

If you are supporting someone else, stay calm and direct. Ask if they can contact a line with you nearby. Do not promise to keep dangerous secrets. Care can be quiet, but it should be real.

There is a whole queer community that has made it through nights that felt endless. Let a hotline worker, a friend, or a trusted adult be part of your team tonight. You belong here, and you deserve to see what comes next.

Save this page somewhere easy to find, or write one number down now. You do not need to wait until a hard moment to make a support plan. Reaching out is not being dramatic. It is a practical, brave choice, like taking an umbrella when the weather looks rough. Let another person help carry some of the weight.

Keep going one small step at a time. You only need to make it through this next piece of the day.